Sorry for the long post, but I must set the scene... WARNING! Poo filled post here!
Mom isn’t having moving her bowels at all without medicinal intervention. When I tried giving her the smallest dose of Miralax, it caused uncontrollable diarrhea. She just stood in the shower with pure liquid running down her legs. She was miserable and so was I!
She doesn’t become bloated or uncomfortable for WEEKS. I honestly don’t know where she is putting it! The nurse and I tried to see if she would move them herself without the laxative. She went almost 3 weeks before we intervened!!! No bloating, no discomfort. She was still eating well and no vomiting, etc. We didn’t DARE go any longer. One senna tablet and 20 minutes later, she went uneventfully. Normal size and consistency. She continued to go throughout the day until her system was emptied.
This lead me to my routine of once per week, I would give her a senna tablet. (More often made the stool far too loose and caused uncontrollable bowels.) With this routine of once per week, she would go between 20 minutes and 2 hours later. We were prepared and I was able to get her to the bathroom where she could go on the toilet easily. I have a bidet sprayer that hooks the the faucet so I could wash her with warm water to keep the area clean. (UTIs are a major issue). Then she was done and all was well.
This week, I gave her a tablet on Tuesday. NOTHING HAPPENED. I chalked this up to her system not working as well. I planned to try again the next day, with perhaps 2 tablets. The max dose is 4. At bedtime, I took her into the bathroom and let her go before showering and changing for bed. She had a bm! I was so happy that things were moving. I got her all ready for bed and she fell asleep. Mother Nature had a surprise for me. At 2 am, my dog woke me begging to go out. I could smell a foul odor in the room. I thought perhaps something happened and he had an accident. This has never happened, but there is always a first time.
Instead, I opened the hall door to find my mother, sitting in the bathroom, covered in poo from the waste down. IT WAS EVERYWHERE! Piles, smears, and no surface unaffected.
I checked the bed alarm. I apparently forgot to TURN IT ON! I have no idea how long she had been sitting there. She had fallen, slipping on the mess.
It took me 30 minutes of cleaning before I could even reach her.
Only people that have been in the caregiver roll will find this next part funny...
The entire time I am spraying, wiping, cleaning to get to her feces coated body, she keeps perseverating on a tiny dot of poo on her pinky. “I need this off, I need this clean!” Imagine the scene. Brown from the waste down. Poopocolypse.
And all she can worry about is a tiny dot on her pinky! There was poo on the rest of her hands too, but only the pinky was a problem for her!
After an hour and a half of washing, scrubbing and disinfecting, Mom was again ready for bed. I continued to clean and then shower after I got her back to bed.
In the morning she was fine. No effects from her fall even. We went through Wednesday with no problems. I thought we were back on track. Wednesday night I was woken by the bed alarm. I had watched her until after midnight. She seemed solidly asleep. Sometime after midnight she woke up. At 12:40 she decided to stand up to remove her diaper. This is when the alarm woke me. By the time I got into her room we had Poopocolypse the sequel. Just like in the movies, the sequel is never as good.
I only had to get her cleaned up, scrub the floor and change the entire bed (she managed to sit down off of the waterproof mat that we keep under her.)
So here is my question.
Has anyone else faced this type of situation? What do I do? The nurse was no help. She said that she seems cleaned out now and she should be ok.
I just don’t know how to time medicine. I am not worried about my convenience, but I am worried about her safety and health. She doesn’t understand to call for help, and I can’t stay awake 24 hours a day watching her.