There are two things my mother does: 1) She starts harassing me about food starting at about 5pm, in a very passive-aggressive way. 2) She occasionally has complete melt-downs -- eyes bulging, teeth bared, where she calls me names like "stupid bitch," etc. when I stop her from doing something. Most recent episode was last night, where she began inexplicably cleaning the gunk from under her finger nails in the kitchen sink where I had a pot of pasta that I had just cooked draining. My husband feels like she should be punished, or made to suffer consequences, for her behavior. This would include ostracism for some period of time, a talking to, not being allowed to join us for our next meal, etc. I'm kind of OK with it for a certain period of time (I need a break from her being around for a few hours after being called a stupid bitch), but truthfully, not sure there's much efficacy in it. She claims not to remember her behavior (not always totally sure of that) and she isn't really capable of learning anything new--again, not 100% certain of this, as she has occasionally surprised me here). And I don't really want her to be unhappy in the presumably short period of time she has left with some level of self-awareness. What do you guys think? What is the best for all concerned?