My parents are elderly and live in a house by themselves. My mom 83 and dad soon to be 90. Mom has dementia and is a mean dementia and my father has fallen into a deep depression and has some memory issues and has withdrawn from everything. My mom doesn't take him out of the house but goes to store daily and leaves him home. He doesn't shower or get dressed. My mom says she can take care of him but she forgets to. She refuses help. My dad is down to 124 lbs. he is just a shell of a body, when I visit he just sits there in a daze. It's like he's waiting to die. It's so sad. I ask my mom to take him out and she rolls her eyes and she is very belittling to him. She argues with me all the time. I tried to get a housekeeper she fired them, my dad had a stroke and when he was getting in home rehab she drove them away too. She constantly thinks she is dying and isn't concerned with my dad. It is so sad, I know its the disease but how can I get someone to come bathe my dad and make sure he is getting fed? She won't let us kids do anything. I thought about calling APP, but then I have read horror stories. Any suggestions?