My parents aged 90 and 83 will not bathe and take keep themselves clean. Mom now has HH coming and they offered to send someone to help her bathe, she refused of course. Mom is pretending to be so sick and weak she can't pour herself a cup of coffee, She was evaluated by OT and they said she didn't need it. Yet I am taking care of them doing all the cleaning and cooking as well as furnishing all the food. I am disabled and only get 1290 per month. They get nearly $7000 per month. I can't afford to keep feeding them. It has nearly doubled my grocery bill.They only pay me a sum that amounts to about 25 cents an hour. Mom has nothing wrong with her except she wants to sit and have someone waiting on her. She doesn't want me to go anywhere or do anything but to be at her beck and call. I am ready to lose it big time. Can anyone tell me what to do??? I have a very bad back and have had surgery once and am needing it again. I fear I am going to get myself injured and have to go into the hosptia myself. She does not care that I am unable to hold up to do this from now on. She is just being a real bitch.
You certainly cannot continue paying for their groceries, etc - especially when they have the funds to do so. Unfortunately, they are taking advantage of you and this will only get worse.
I would call the local elder services in your town and meet with one of their social workers. They can give you advice on what to do next. There are programs such as Meals on Wheels which are a minimal cost and are delivered directly to the door. They can truly help you - they were a lifeline for me and even went so far as to meet with my mother and me together as she would not listen to me when I was alone.
Hugs to you and hope you can get some help. Take care of yourself as best you can - you are a wonderful daughter and your parents are blessed by all you have done for them.