My elderly disabled in-laws live in our home, Dad had a stroke several yrs ago, mom is morbidly over weight, and now her rehab center tells me she needs 24 hr care, the thing is I myself am semi disabled, my husband works, and its down to dad and I to look after mom, apart from 4 hrs a day a carer comes in. Its Not enough, mom gets dad up anywhere up to 4 times a night. He's making himself ill and she won't go into 24 hr care and the rehab place says they can't make her. We're at our wits end, dads to the point he doesn't want her home, she's demanding, does nothing for herself, won't bathe, has excuses for everything, nothings her fault, all shell do is watch tv and dad never gets the remote. She wont go to bed, instead she sits in her chair all night.