I live 1000 miles away but have been staying with her. She doesn't want help but needs it. How do I get my Mom to accept in home help. I live 1000 miles away but have been staying with her. She doesnt want help but needs it. She is very stubborn. Has fallen and broken her pelvis. Has horrible arthritis so very much pain and trouble walking. She is a very strong willed person that is great, because she is not going to give in to the wheelchair etc. At this time she is still able (with great difficulty) to get around with a walker. She spent a month in rehab where she tried all the PT and Occupational Therapists patience. Is home now. . She wants to stay in her home, which I understand. I have been trying to have her go home with me, NO. So I have talked to a help agency here, which would do her shopping, and take her to Dr. Appointments etc. It sounds perfect for my situation. I still own a business and need to get back home. She doesnt want anyone other than me to do her shopping. She will not wear a help device either. These seem like such small sacrifices to stay at home. I am so afraid she will fall again. I dont want to be a bully, and I dont want to send her to an assisted living place that she doesnt want, but I need to talk her into doing the basics, like allowing these people to help her do the things that have to be done between my visits. And have a med alert system. Just at my wits end. She is still capable of the bathing, laundry etc. She just cant walk to do shopping etc. And no driving.