My mother has a diagnosis of vascular dementia with behavioral changes and has narcissistic tendencies. She can still pull it together enough to sound like she knows what she’s talking about so medical personnel address her with questions and accept her answers even after I correct it. Some don’t really matter, like her claim to be 5’7” rather than her actual 5’3” or 4” but some, like she hasn’t fallen (actually a fall 5 months ago that broke her hip, still high fall risk at the ALF) or that she lives alone and works (actually ALF for over 2 yrs ) could make a huge difference. Took her to a new cardiologist yesterday and noticed after the visit notes including her crazy answers as fact rather than the answers I gave.
Even correcting the answers makes my mother get angry but I don’t get why the Drs take her as fact or how to get them changed when she has a dementia dx. I’m her medical POA but I don’t think they even look most of the time.
Yesterday the Dr made a point of handing her the after visit summary and discussion of follow up with her🙄🙄🙄. Dignity is one thing but truthfully sometimes that borders on stupidity.