My mom is currently in a short-term assisted living facility almost 1,000 miles away from where I live. She had surgery in early August which left her very weak and unable to walk by herself. Since then, her husband, my stepfather, passed away unexpectedly. His son lives in the area where my mom is currently living. After his dad passed, he got into his files and took all of the important paperwork about his father and my mother. He said he would provide me with my mother’s original paperwork or at least copies, but last time I went down for a visit he said on the last night I was there that he didn’t feel comfortable providing me with this paperwork without my mother's specific instructions which he could’ve easily asked for earlier in the day or earlier in the week.
Can I trust him? He currently holds all of my mother’s financial accounts, mail, will, as well as paperwork naming me as POA. He has access to my mothers lock box at the bank because his father’s name was on it as well, and he knows everyone in the small town where she lives. He is paying my Mom’s bills with her account, although I have offered on multiple occasions to help out.
How can I gain control of my mothers accounts and belongings so that I can ensure that she is properly taken care of and not taken advantage of by this person that I honestly don’t know very well. My stepfather’s will is in probate & I have no idea what it says. I feel lost & unable to protect my mother.