... let me preface this by saying it is probably easier to get a toddler to eat than my Dad. To say that his palate has become pickier with age is an understatement. Dad has lost about 6 pounds in the past two months (I WISH I COULD DO THAT!), and despite the efforts of his hospice nurse, we're not getting too far. Dad was drinking chocolate ensures for a while and gained about 10 pounds on them, but he soon grew tired of them and said they upset his stomach, so that stopped. He only eats a few "real food" items ... bacon and egg sandwiches on white, thin sliced bread (seriously, he won't eat any other type of bread), hamburgers, hot dogs, vegetable soup and some "soul food" (baked ham, bbq ribs, collards, yams, potato salad, baked beans). That's IT! I'm not exaggerating. I can only bring the soul food and hot dogs when I visit (usually three times a week), and that in itself is cumbersome, but if the dining room doesn't have what he likes, he won't eat. They have tried to give Dad milkshakes, weight gainer ice cream, weight gainer pudding, etc, but he doesn't like them. I try to keep him supplied with calorically dense snacks (Little Debbie snack cakes, Lay's potato chips, ice cream sandwiches, Cokes), but he eats those sporadically. He's communicated that he will order vegetable soup to be brought to his room, but they either bring it to him late or not at all. Furthermore, if they don't have vegetable soup, he won't eat it. I've tried to buy larger portions of the foods he likes, split them into smaller servings and put them in his small fridge, but he says he doesn't like to eat the leftovers cold. He refuses to ask the AL staff to heat up his leftovers for him. I need some suggestions on how to get AL staff more involved to make sure they're providing support in this area. I've asked, but have no real way to verify that my wishes are being carried out. I really don't want to be the helicopter daughter here, but this is important. 6 foot 1 and 121 pounds is NOT a healthy weight. HELP!