My mom needs a hip replacement, but is 100 lbs overweight. She doesn't exercise, and will not change her bad eating habits. What do I do?

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I'm over 100 lbs overweight from a back injury from work. I can't stand 5 minutes w/out so much pain. Can't operate because of weight. Will Medicare pay for a Lap Band procedure?
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My aunt had hip replacement due to a broken hip. In the nursery home, her sugar had elavated. When she came home, even though it was a 1-time thing that her sugar elevated, since she wasn't able to go to the grocery store any more, I bought sugar free things for her, and controlled her portion size. When home alone, she usually just eats the 1-portion size. However, she sometimes gets a second portion. I can't control what she eats when she's by herself.
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Hi, ciphertiger! Your question makes so much sense and is to-the-point. In my opinion, you should pose the exact same question to your Mom's doctor, and ask the doctor to schedule your Mom with a dietitian/nutritionist who will: educate your Mom (and you, as her patient advocate and health cheerleader); and, who will create a customized nutrition plan and targets for your Mom. You can't do it for your Mom, and she can't make it happen on her own without the expert advice of good dietitian counseling. Good for you for caring! Keep encouraging your Mom and avoid nagging her about food and eating. Best to you both.
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She would qualify as a candidate for lapband or gastric bypass surgery. The lapband is reversible and there are many health risks with the gp. Her BEING overweight has a main bearing on her overloaded hips. I would talk her into getting the lapband procedure done, and then go from there. IF she doesn't want to diet that is.
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Hi, I have to say that the advice of it not being in the house is best. idea. 2nd best all I can say is the hmr diet. I just lost 46lbs on it since march and the shakes fill you up like you couldnt imagiine. (no, I am not promoting it) All diets like weight watchers are great and just smaller portions but if you add protein shakes they are so filling. Best of luck, nothing helped me for many years but I finally am doing it. Remember its an addiction like alchol, its hard to break this habit, the more you say to her, the more she wont do it probably.
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You can't change other people's behavior but you can make choices for yourself. Support her decisions but you need boundries on your time and energy. It's so hard to do this but I think we all need to try so we can have a happy life.
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Cipher, I have a friend that had to have both her knees replaced, but that was because she was 200 lbs over weight for so long. She had gastric bypass surgery, lost the 200+ lbs but still had to have the surgery on her knees because the damage had already been done. Now she and I can walk the beach collecting agates all day long, and she's pain free. I too was 100 lbs over weight but lost those pounds the old fashioned way. If your mother can't exercise (the key for me) then maybe she should be checking into the Lap Band as an alternative. I will always be an over eater and have the weakness for food till the day I die. It's just a fact that I have to live with but don't have to execute if I don't WANT to. Just like the alcoholic who says that they will always be an alcoholic, so is the over eater. If your mother lacks the push to get her to lose weight the 'old fashioned way' there is no shame of doing it a more unconventional way. She won't be sorry to beat this thing.
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TheFixer is right on target. Contact Home Health Care to come out and assess and they will bring in a physical therapist who will work with your mom for 6 weeks. Medicare covered. When you go to the store for her don't buy the fattening food and sweets. She won't be able to get up so oops, there it is. Can't catch you, can she? All you can do is control what you will do. She wants more food she will have to find someone else to do so. Good luck and don't let her make you feel guilty or bad. Sorry, love ya too much mom.
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Since your mother has broken her hip, I'm guessing she has to have the hip replacement. If that's the case make sure she is admitted to a rehab facility after her surgery so she will have to do the exercises and perhaps the dietitians there can work with her on her diet. If you can get her doctor to admit her for 2-3 weeks, it would be best if you and your siblings (if you have any) could be at some of the physical therapy sessions. It will help encourage her and allow you to help her continue the exercises once she gets home. Also see if you can get some in home physical therapy a few days a week once she's out of rehab, the doctor can approve up to 6 weeks I believe. Hopefully this can be the start of her getting back in control of her weight, she will need a lot of encouragement and support, just don't enable her to backslide by doing everything for her and buying her junk food.... Good Luck!
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If the doctor can help your mother do the best thing for herself, then great! You really can't do anything for your mother but accept her decision. We all have a right to our own decisions - good or bad! Help yourself to know it is not your responsibility!

Probably your mother thinks it is not possible to lose that much weight. Hopefully, she will see that this is worth the effort.
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