How do I help my loved one (91) take a shower once a week without a major battle that upsets us both?

bettysdance, it is quite common for someone with dementia not to want to take a shower.... apparently they don't like the way the water feels hitting the skin... and some are claustrophobic in a shower.

There are home care agencies that have Aides who help with just showers, they are highly experienced and know exactly what to do. It might be worth the money not to have a battle each time there is a need for a shower.

It's no different than a child at bath time, I think they would rather run through a sprinkler out in the yard then take a shower :)

Ask his doctor to prescribe an anti-anxiety medication to be given before showers and ask the MD to send an occupational therapist (OT) to show you how to shower him with the least amount of upset.

I would ask his doctor for sone antianxiety meds for shower days