A little history: Three years ago, MIL moved GMIL into her home. Two months after, God created an opportunity to get both of them next door to us, 300 miles from current town. We knew it would be an adventure, and don't regret making this decision. However, I would now love to have my MIL able to enjoy her new home! GIL has always been narcissistic,and family has always catered to that fact. MIL also has same tendency. More so the stubborn part. The two have never gotten along, and a lot of resentment show from both. I have tried to have MIL look into respite of some kind. Area on Aging is worthless. No medical reasons for either to be put on list. My next step was to move forward by looking at NH for GMIL. MIL won't even start. She would rather complain all the time about waiting on GMIL. I keep telling her that if she (GMIL) wasn't there, that MIL would at least have her house to herself. There seems to always be an excuse. Frankly, I have seen MIL age from the stress,and would like to reverse some of it. MIL is a prisoner by her own stubbornness, as GMIL,at 102,has dementia and nobody feels comfortable leaving her unattended for long. MIL runs short errands while we are at work. I personally feel that GMIL would perk up some, not being a hostage. She is treated like a dog in a kennel. Basic needs are met but social needs are not. I also think that MIL is mistreating herself by holding GMIL a prisoner. Would calling APS help my situation, or cause a tension with MIL?