My Grandma is 98 and bedridden. She is not stable enough to trust to walk on her own to and from the bathroom, even though it is right next to her bed, and sometimes on bad days she cannot get up from the bed unassisted anyway.
My Dad and I (her only family) have recently started having in-home caregivers come in during the day to help take the burden off of us being the only ones responsible for helping her. They come during the week and work hours like 7am to 10am, 1pm to 4pm or 7pm to 10pm. We have tried not to overwhelm my Grandma initially because she doesn't like the idea of "strangers" in her home, but the agency they are from has a three hour minimum time, so they essentially sit around waiting for her to need to go to the bathroom since her meal prep and housekeeping needs are extremely basic.
Our issue is even with this additional help she will still call my Dad, sometimes just a half hour before or after they leave, needing help to go to the bathroom. She is on laxatives that have been cut back a bit, but otherwise her hospice providers that handle her medication have essentially told us tough luck and that we (and we is basically just my Dad since I live out of town) need to be on call at all times for these bathroom trips. Sometimes he will be over at 6:30am, 11am, 12:30pm, 5pm, 6:30pm, 12:30am....
Are there any caregiving agencies that anyone has found (preferably paid for through Medicaid which we are in the process of applying for) that have someone "on call" for things like this??? Even so, I'm not sure they could get there fast enough to get her to the bathroom in time.
Does anyone have any solutions beyond a nursing home or having permanent in-home help all day, which I don't think is going to go over with my Grandma?