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She doesn’t drive, refuses to sit in the car for extended periods of time and won’t fly. Shes on a ton of medication and sees doctors pretty regularly. I don’t know how to initiate this transition, where to move her to, or how to even get all of her doctor information if she won’t cooperate and doesn’t really know what she’s saying half of the time

Do you have POA? What has she been diagnosed with? Does she live alone? What is the point of the move? You might want to discuss with her doctor and with family if she needs to be placed in a facility and if so what level of care she needs.
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Is this a responsibility you really want and are capable of taking on? If you don't have her POA and she doesn't have a diagnosis of incompetence, you may not be able to do anything. It might be best to report her to the local Adult Protective Services for an evaluation. If she is seeing doctors regularly and taking medications, that is far better than many mentally ill seniors, so it's probably best not to disrupt that.
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At 67 this probably isn't a dementia issue, this is solely about having a parent with mental illness. Why do you want to move her, when you don't even know where you want her to live? It doesn't sound like you have guardianship or active powers of attorney, it sounds like you're desperately trying to fix a mentally ill uncooperative adult. I'm very sorry to tell you she can't be fixed, and she can't be helped unless she's willing to receive the help and then act accordingly.
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16hrs? I took this as Maryland to New Hampshire which is approximately 8 hours depending where you live. Flying is approx. 1 1/2 hours. How would Mom do on a plane? Would she except that she is visiting? You are probably going to need to tell some fibs. Maybe her doctor can give her a light sedative.
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How necessary is this ~16-hour move? Can care be brought to her, either where she is or nearby? Your local Aging office could help guide you through everything, including putting her in someone's care.
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"Easily" is not an expectation you should have in this situation.

Even IF you were her legal guardian it's not "easy" to get a physically uncooperative adult from Point A to Point B.

Do you even have PoA for her? If so, is it durable? Or, is your PoA authority active (because the criteria is met, meaning she has an official medical diagnosis of sufficient incapacity)?

If you don't have PoA or legal guardianship, then this is your first step.

More info on whether or not you have this would be helpful to give you the most appropriate guidance.
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