My mother-in-law was no longer able to live alone and was 4 hours away from us, so we finally convinced her to come stay with us for a while until we sorted out a better living situation local to us. It has been a long fight to get her here, as she's continually lying and hiding things from us and refusing our help. Once she got here, it was obvious her condition was worse than we were aware of, and she wasn't far from needing 24/7 care. She then fell last week and broke her Femur and is back in the hospital. She is now looking at atleast 10-12 weeks in a rehab facility/skilled nursing home with no weight on that leg. She is VERY high risk if she gets COVID. We're having a hard time justifying sending her to a facility where the risk of catching COVID is high. Not to mention we are limited to what facilities her Advantage Plan with Medicare covers.
However, I don't think bringing her to live with us during recovery is a realistic option. She will need 24/7 care, which we can't afford. We also have young children and both have full time jobs.
I guess I'm just having a hard time with the guilt if we send her to a SNF for rehab, and she does get COVID, we feel it would be our fault. Any advice or insight would be appreciated.