My brother is older and lives with my mom. He does not have a job so he is available to take her to appointments and be home with her more than anyone else. He also loves to cook so we thought he'd enjoy making her nutritious meals. However, when it comes to bills and adulting.. he is not doing what is needed. He is driving her car and using her debit card. He is isolating her from the outside world and throwing a huge pity party over how much this is taking a toll on him. I know my mom would not want him to have a say in her care because they had a strained relationship previous to her stroke. He is really good at convincing others everything is fine but the more people that are physically present in our little family, they are seeing how bad reality is. I don't know how to protect my mom without him taking it out on her or something.