Yesterday, mo mom decided she wanted to go to the beauty shop and get her hair cut. My dad and I had a horrible time getting her out of the house to go, a lot of crying and I can't go down the outside steps (we tried to put a ramp in, last year, but they wouldn't have it). Then she was crying, back the car up to the door, so no one can see me trying to get in the car, then it was I can't get in the car, it's too hard, I drive an SUV and have a stool for her to get in. We get down the road a bit with her crying and complaining, she decides she can't make it to the beauty shop, but she wants to go grocery shopping. In the meantime, I had told her that my son has a friend that would come to the house and do her hair, she started crying again, you guys talk about us and just want to put us in a nursing home, I did not answer her, no point in it.
Before we got to the grocery store, my daughter called and asked if we wanted to go out to lunch, she had a friend visiting from out of town that we hadn't seen in awhile. I said sure, lunch seemed to calm her down a bit, and she actually paid for everyone's lunch which is unusual for her, we never did make it to the store, she was to tired after that.
My mom has copd and is on oxygen 24/7, plus a lot of other health issues, she will not follow any dr orders, do therapy to help her move around better, mostly she makes dr apts then cancels them.
My dad has prostate cancer, with a Gleason score of 8, and I can see him getting more frail. They have almost an acre of land and will not hire anyone to help with the yard work, they will not hire anyone to help with the inside work, mostly it's just me and 2 of my kids that help. It is hard for my kids to help, they work long hours and have their own homes to take care of.
But on the other hand, I was told yesterday, that they hired some person, that they found on google to put new doors on their house. I tried to look this person up, but I could not find them anywhere, I can't be there when this person is supposed to come, I am at a loss on what to do
Sorry for the long post, doing a lot of venting, but I am at a loss on what to do, I really think my mom is starting with dementia, and my dad is saying I am not going to live much longer, and I am staying in my house, which is ok if they would agree to someone coming in to help