My mom is 78 years old, she is basically blind and simply will not listen to me when I tell her she needs to use her walker or ask her to stop doing something for her own safety. My husband and I bought property in the mountains with two homes so my parents could still feel like they had some independence. Their house is 25 steps away from my front door to their front door. Today, I caught her outside, standing on a flimsy little wood side table they use outside, hammering in screws, not nails, for the flag pole I told them I would instal for them tomorrow. She keeps telling me she won’t fall, but before we moved she fell on concrete and luckily she didn’t break anything! She couldn’t even get off this side table today when I helped her down. She didn’t even have her walker with her outside, she hardly keeps her balance and almost falls backwards when getting out of a vehicle. My husband and I are in our late 30s, and I feel it’s unfair for my husband to constantly worry about them and seeing them do dangerous things, and it’s not for lack of me trying to get them to just stop these things. We have a toddler with seizure issues and autistic along with 10 year old daughter and an 11 year old autistic son. We already have enough stress during the day along with all the issues we have to handle with this property. I just barely got her to stop watering plants outside that don’t need to be watered because of mice and snakes up here that we have never dealt with before. Mice are finally under control, but it took months of me trying to get her to stop watering, and now that the mice are gone, I fear she will start watering again! We don’t want to send them to a home. How do I get her to listen? Do I take their tools away from them? Because with my dads recent stroke, he’s changed and now I’m worried he will go and try to fix something in their house and get hurt. I already took away the step ladder out of their home since my dad can’t stand up straight and my mom cannot see. My mom has always been so stubborn when it comes to anything I ask of her, my whole life. I feel like I’m dealing with teenagers with the comprehension of a toddler. Sorry if this seems more like I am venting than asking for suggestions. This is hard on me and sometimes I feel like it’s unfair to me since my sister who is in her 50s won’t help and I shouldn’t be dealing with this at the age I’m at. If this was my husband's parents I’d be getting onto him a lot too if they did this. What do we do?!!!