I want to be in an informed, involved caregiver for my mom, who is now 61 and has been in her secure memory facility for almost a year. Her concept of time is so confused now, that after about 15 mins she tells me its time for me to leave - and will get agitated if I don't. So I usually leave, even though it makes me feel horrid. The nurses know about it, and I can tell they feel sorry for me too. Sometimes I just call to check on her instead of driving up there to visit b/c it hurts for her to tell me to leave. I know she's happy, safe, and healthy. They take great care of her and she participates in all the activities and field trips. And enjoys it. She has a little bit of her own money and they manage that for her as well.
Anyone out there go through this?