My 87 year old mother lives in senior housing ( not asst living) she is incontinent and house bound ( among many other health issues) . She wears depends but just throws the dirty ones in the open trash. I do her laundry and it is usually urine soaked. Her apartment smells. I try to tell her she has to put the used depends in a bag, tie it up and dispose of it ( like it was a diaper) but she doesn't. The smell doesn't seem to bother her but it really bothers me. She begs me not to put her in a nursing home. I feel like I age 10 years every time I visit her ( 1-2 times a week) I also do her food shopping and her bills. she has a cleaning woman come in 2X a month to vacuum and clean the bathroom but she "leaks" urine on the carpets and floors so it constantly needs to be cleaned so I wash floors while I'm there. We've asked her to move in with us but she does not want to. I work full time and am exhausted. ... any suggestions?