My 87 year old mother lives with my oldest sister and her husband. My mother has dealt with incontinence issues for years and has even had the mesh bladder lift surgery to assist her with this problem. This problem has escalated to a more serious problem where our mother refuses to even get up go to the bathroom to urinate. She says she doesn't need to since she wears the incontinence undergarments. She reinforces them with overnight pads in the middle of them. She claims she cannot tell when she has to urinate but knows she is going because she feels the "warmth". We have discussed this issue with her doctor and she has been examined and we are told there is no physical reason for her to be going on herself the way she is. Confronting her about her need to get up and go to the bathroom to "clean up" turns into a battle of wills. To her if it's not absolutely dripping wet it doesn't need to be changed. She even resorts to trying to dry them out if she feels they are not wet enough to dispose of them. Chairs are being ruined, her mattress is going to need to be replaced soon. Suggesting that she consider being cathed to deal with this easier sent her into a tail spin. She doesn't care about her hygiene issues associated with this problem and refuses to take baths or showers. When asked by Heath care officials she lies and tells them she washes, but she doesn't. UTI's are pretty much the norm. Anyone else dealing with this too?