Mom is 94 and has been in a Home for 3 years and is currently in the Alzheimer's Unit. I am an only child and have POA. She has always been a negative, bitter, verbally abusive drama queen. Since going through her private papers, I have found out her father committed suicide when I was 12. I was never told. She has always maintained that the Home is a front for a brothel and everyone, staff and residents alike, are "hooking up", even in her room. When hospitalized at one point, she asked me if there were bruises on her legs. I said no and asked why. She said, "John beats me. He thinks I like it." There is no "John" and she isn't being beaten. I am certain of this. Recently, she alluded to the fact that she had an affair with her married boss decades ago. My mother's ramblings, whether based in fact or not, are turning my stomach. I don't argue with her unless I just can't take it anymore. I avoid going to visit her and the staff must think I'm just an awful daughter. I leave the Home depressed and angry and my poor husband suffers for it. She's seen the psychiatrist at the home, and is on medication for anxiety. She's also become physical with other residents. I know that, since she's 94, I will not be dealing with this forever. I don't want to remember her like this for the rest of MY life. Counselling for me is not an option due to cost and lousy healthcare coverage. Thanks in advance for any advice!