My Grandmother who is 95 , I have been her primary care giver for 5 years. I only had the assistance of my husband to help with daily duties. My husband and I at the same time still had small children to take care of. I did it because i truly loved my Grandmother my whole life. Unfortunately Grandma needed more extensive care because, she is non ambulatory. I was able to get her into a fabulous nursing home. I am only child and my father passed away young. My grandmother had a few nieces and a nephrew , she did stay close with over the years. However, during her stay with me they hardley ever visted or helped me out in anyway.
The prognosis for Grandma, is not good. She is 95 and is not going to live forever. I am the POA, and family members are resentful ,because of this. After my grandmother was admitted to the facility ; I needed to place My husband and I on the list for contact and medical correspondent. I added her two nieces out of courtesy. My Grandmothers so called nephew who is really a cousin. It began has friendly vists to see Grandma. He would come and vist between his part time job since he is retired. He nerver called to tell me he was visting , i reached out to him to thank him for visting my Grandmother. He started to become aggressiveness towards to staff at the facility. He was demanding to found out medical information on my Grandmother. The head nurse told him he is not on the list and she could not give out any information due to our laws. The nurse stated why are you not asking your Aunts grandaughter. The nurse said " maybe you should mend the fence "
He stated i cant help it, because she had autistic child since she had a child late in life. By the way i had my son at 39 i hardly call that old. He also continued to deformations about my husband. We also, never had words with this man and we had no kind of relationship with him. The head nurse reported him to social services. I had to confront him and told him he was no longer permitted to vist. By the way he denies what he said and blamed the nurse. My problem is when Grandma, passes i do not want him at the funeral. Some family members tried to bully me. Also, i took my grandmothers one niece off the list. I believe these two were
Starting to cause trouble. Once again when Grandma passes I will nerver see any of these people again. I do not welcome this nephrew, at my grandmothers ,funeral while i am grieving.