
My husband is in advanced stage of Parkinson’s no dementia so far. However, as his PD affects autonomic dysfunction, he has about 40 or more symptoms. Hospitalized 8 times since late December. Advanced spinal stenosis, unbearable pain for which they increased and doubled hydromorphone and added about five different pills and it seems to work. Somewhat. Still in pain. And several infections, UTI, pneumonia and others. Delirium so bad at times I could not recognize him. However, they gave him additional doses of drugs in hospital, which probably caused delirium, as there's none at this time.
Doctors are reluctant to look any further, as one said they're afraid they would findmore. In other words, not much hope. Not dying, but end of life should be considered in the future. His blood pressure is 80/40, and he's experienced unintentional weight loss of about 10% in last 6 months. And general decline although seems to be better one day and then worse the next. Seems like his neurologist does not even want to see him anymore.
I wish there was some definitive explanation or diagnosis. I realize everyone’s journey with PD is different. First time I am facing such huge unknown and feel scared.
Anybody has any comments, words of encouragement or advice? Greatly appreciated at the moment.
To accept and believe may be difficult in some instances, but peace and tranquility are some of the benefits gained by this attitude.
God is in charge…turn it over to Him and His Grace!
Seek His comfort!
John
So sorry about your wife passing.
Trust me I am humble enough.
And while that sounds like a big step right now, it doesn't mean that he will be dead soon, but will give you both additional eyes on the situation, and any needed equipment, supplies, and medications all covered 100% under your husbands Medicare.
My late husband was under hospice care in our home for the last 22 months of his life, even though hospice thought he would die sooner than that.
Most people wait too long before they bring hospice on board, when they could benefit from their services much sooner.
And you can call them yourself to come out and do an assessment, which allows you to do your homework and bring the hospice agency of your choice on board, as not all hospice agencies are created equal.
I know you've been on quite the journey with your husband and that you're in it for the long haul, so stay strong and know that you've got this.
May God bless you and keep you.
I am so sorry you are facing this, and your husband is facing this. He's fortunate to have you by his side. My husband also has PD with some associated dementia. It's a horrible disease for sure.
I hope you have your husband enrolled in Hospice. If not, please contact the Hospice agency and talk to them about doing an assessment for enrollment. Hospice has changed and it is not just "God's waiting room".
My husband has Hospice at home. The nurse is fantastic and works seamlessly with the Hospice doctor. During the last 9 months my husband had medical issues that Hospice addressed. He was given Baclofen (muscle relaxer) to address pain when turned in bed for cleaning. He got a terrible yeast infection all over his back last October due to sweating alot. He also had a suspected UTI recently. Also a large angry sebaceous cyst under his left arm in the armpit. He had a terrible cough that was due to excessive secretions and not aspiration. If the Hospice nurse and doctor had not been available, I would have had him admitted to the ER for several of these issues, as due to his being bedbound, I can't get him to a doctor.
His neurologist is able to do video appointments, but I find the Hospice nurse and doctor to be more well-versed in end stage issues.
Yes, everyone's PD journey is different. The roller coaster of good days and bad days can make you want to cry. Hospice nurses understand the fear and frustration, and are able to have honest and compassionate conversations with you and your husband. Prayers for you, your husband and your family.
I read some of your post, I agree horrible disease and roller coaster for sure.
In regards to your second post re Catholic Church. I was raised as one as well. No you are not preaching, makes sense to me how your belief is stronger.
However, my view is completely opposite.
Have you asked Medical if there are any support groups for you?
Are you on any on FB. I know that my cancer support group there is marvelous and a great comfort to me.
I am so sorry.
Great idea, haven’t gone on FB for quite sometime.
I hope you are doing better, haven’t been on AC for a while.
Hospice was here and if needed he can go to facility at any time.
With PD establishing EOL is not easy or drs are reluctant to say it.
We live in Canada so no Medicare.
Thanks for encouraging words, it seems as if I who was always strong suddenly feel hopeless.
And I'm sure you're feeling hopeless right now, as the unknown can be very scary, but don't forget that you are stronger than you know, and that God will be right by your side the entire time.
Sounds like my husband although decades younger.
Few close calls this year!
Wishing you peace.
John
I am sorry to hear about your husband.
I am beginning to see the worst of choking in the last few weeks, my husband is absolutely adamant about no feeding tube.
If your loved one is lucid, it is time to have those tough conversations. Ask him how aggressively he wants his medical treatment to be: Do Not Resuscitate, limited efforts to resuscitate (CPR or No CPR, intubation or no intubation, mechanical ventilation or no ventilator, drugs for blood pressure or no drugs...), life prolonging treatments (iv fluids, tubes in stomach for food and/or fluids...), and give you legal power for medical and financial decisions. You might wish to also talk about celebration of life or memorial service - however I would suggest that you make these decisions without your loved one since the service is more about what gives you peace than your loved one's needs.
While with your loved one, be in the moment with him. Enjoy their presence. Try to create memories by bringing/doing what gives him comfort or joy. Some ideas to consider: listening to music together, watching movies together, reading book together, simple craft, enjoying treats they like, rubbing warm lotion on arms/legs, brushing hair...
Great suggestion, thank you.
However all done and done.
NDR, no feeding tube, POA all in place, no funeral!
Thank you