She has alienated people but will never see fault in any of her own actions. My mother is almost 80 and medically speaking she is in great shape. She does not take any medication. She lives alone and is the most independent/dependant person I know. She does not want to be told what to do, but she does not want to do it herself either. My dad passed away 2 1/2 years ago. He had beenin a nursing home on and off for 2-3 years before he passed away. Now that he is gone, my mother has become more and more nasty and bitter. She has alienated many people around her. I do what I can for her, I take her shopping, do her banking, address every piece of mail, make all important phone calls, take her to the doctor, etc. I know that she appreciates all of this, and tells me that often. The problem that I have though is that sometimes I feel that she is sucking the life out of me, She is never happy. I am married and have 2 children 16 and 12. She does not understand that it is a new world and things are different than when she raised me.