I moved here to help take care of my mother. I now live across the street from her and my Step-Dad. My mother is 92 and will be going into assisted living in two weeks because of her health. My step-dad is also 92 and he will remain in my mother's home. My step-dad has never liked me. (I'm an only child) I don't care for him either. My step-dad is very controlling and very manipulative with me. Everything with my step-dad is last minute if you know what I mean. I live across the street from them and it's "take me here, take me there" nonstop, and at the last minute !! He is not my father!!! He has two sons who live nearby and they will do nothing to help their father at all !!!! I'm extremely tired of being manipulated. Here is the latest thing:: The place where my mother is going will need to be furnished by us. Norco will supply the bed and wheelchair, but the room needs to be furnished with other stuff that we need to furnish. I AM A MORNING PERSON. I am up at 5:00am every day. I work best in the mornings. Come afternoon I'm pooped. Mom is to move in on the 25th of this month. The rates at the assisted living place start when the furniture is moved in. I'm the one in charge of taking her clothes, and personal items to the facility and setting up her room. My step-dad and his handyman will be moving the dresser, recliner and other pieces of furniture. I told my step-dad that all I was asking for was to have a full day so I can get everything organized at the facility for my mother so everything looks nice when she gets there. My step-dad tells me "NO." Remember, everything is last minute with him, and I don't work that way. Being rushed and in a hurry to get something done causes a lot of stress for me and when that happens I don't do good work. My step-dad tells me that they will be moving the furniture in the day before, and I was going to need to just deal with it. I told him I wanted him to move the furniture in two days prior so I can have a full day to get organized. I planned on getting there at about 8:00am, get to work and be back home by around 1:00 to do the things I need to do at home. He said they would not deliver the furniture until around noon the day before mom arrives and I would just need to deal with it and work around their schedule. Also, he says to me that there is no way he is paying for two days of the place sitting empty waiting for mom to get there!!! I told him that "he" would not be paying for this, that it would come out of my mother's money. He got mad. I am going to call Norco an tell them to deliver the bed on the 23rd. This will really anger my step-father, as this would mean the rate will start on the 23rd an not the 24th. When he becomes very angry with me I am then going to tell him that I will box up my mother's belongings, and I will take them over to the facility, but I will not set up her room, since he is dead set on not paying for two days. I will tell him that he can then find someone else to set up the room!!! I'm so tired of this......he is so controlling and manipulative. I cannot discuss this with my mother as she is too out of it. What do you think?