Mom wants every possible medical procedure available, including root canals and knee surgery. She won't take "no" for an answer. If there was such a thing as a brain transplant, she'd want that, too. She absolutely loves going to doctors. Her primary MD treats her as comfort care, which she describes in layman's terms as "alleviating pain and discomfort but not trying to fix everything." As Moms medical POA, I heartily agree.
To my discredit, I ended up taking her to an endodontist at her dentist's recommendation for 2 very expensive root canals, which IMHO given her age could have been pulled with no compromise to quality-of-life. I caved because it was her money. I knew if I didn't she'd bellow to anyone who would listen how I "neglected" her, refused her medical care, etc., but how I appear to others doesn't bother me so much anymore. Honestly? I just wanted her to shut up about it . Enough already.
Now she wants knee replacement surgery, which I refuse to allow, given her age. I've tried to talk her out of it. She gets around okay with a walker and Orthovisc injections. She complains of pain but goes like a racehorse in her walker. She uses a walker because she's a fall risk with stability issues. Her orthopedist said he could do the surgery but didn't recommend it. I keep putting her off but get tired of endless wrangling over it. Talk about persistent! Reasoning with her is useless and even if she did agree with me, she'd forget the next day, thus the endless cycle. Am I stuck with the status quo?