My mother has always had anxiety over everything but while my Dad was alive her issues were minimized. I moved her here to live next door to me after he passed and over the past 7 years she has become worse and worse. I try to stay positive for my family (husband and disabled adult son, of whom I am the legal caregiver). Plus I have a full time job outside the home. My mom actually resents the idea that I have a job and will say things like “aren’t you supposed to be retired by now.” She bad mouths my husband to my face all the time. I honestly think that she sees my job and my family as deterrents to my giving her all of my attention. She is “sick” every single day. But really isn’t sick. Her mind is so completely negative that she actually believes that she is sick. Now she is starting the “if I have to live this way I don’t want to live anymore” speech. Her 90th birthday is next month and every year she gets really negative before her birthday but I don’t want to be pulled down into her pit with her. She’s my mother and I love her so it is so hard not to feel bad for her. Any suggestions out there how I can keep a happy outlook even while she is tearing me down all the time?