Long story short, my 71 year old father ended up needing a colostomy. He is now living with me and my family. I have four children ages 14,12,7,and 2. He had surgery 3 weeks ago and has been home for 2 weeks. I am already losing my patience. He won't do much for himself at all. He won't eat or drink unless I bring it to him. He only showers twice a week. He refuses to learn his colostomy care and we can't find anything that works. They are supposed to last close to a week and I am changing it up to three times a day. The mess is unreal as he has constant diarrhea and it leaks so much. My 2 year old is obviously very demanding and my older children are involved in sports. I have a wonderful husband but he works 70 hours a week to support us. I am so tired already. What do you do to help cope and stay patient and kind?