Similar to the question about refusing a doctor which I read. She has 4th stage of paranoia dementia. She thinks home care is unfair to her privacy and she does not need it although she wants to remain in her home. She sabotages any help we bring in. She has a boyfriend who is occasionally there. She jumps from doctor to doctor. She has a frontal tumor and has seizures. She is diabetic and has lost 18 lb in 3 months and she says she's not hungry. The doctor has given us written evaluation for Guardianship and told us numerous times she needs 24/7 care. Two of us children are on board with filing and the other three are not. They say it will ruin their relationship and cause more hardship putting her over the edge because she has depression, an oppositional personality and is fragile. She has convenienced herself she is fine and makes her situation out to be so. She has a cognitive impairment and still trying to do some financing. I pay most of her bills but she has control of finances. I try to explain the dangers of this to my siblings and the trouble we have to go through to fix things we happen to catch. I explained after her last seizure to my siblings that I spent four days helping her and all the details. I think because no one else is around but me and my brother that next time a physical issue comes up either one of us should call 911 and let her go to ER. She told them that I am over reacting nothing is that wrong. Several months ago she went to an attorney and took my name off of POA's and any banking and put my brother in charge out of anger. My siblings did not stand up for me after the 12 years I been her caretaker because of her personaliy. I try to just pray to God about what to do and do what I believe I can at that moment. I know something has to change for my own health and my brothers who also trys to walk on eggshells and appease her.