I am a caregiver for both of my parents. I live with them also. My Father is actually on borrowed time as it is. We do not have problems like someone with these actions,like my mother. I have gotten to the point that I just can't not stand to be anywhere near her. She is the most evil person I have ever met. Yes,I know it sounds very harsh,but unless y'all know exactly what it is like to go thru this then you would not understand.
My question is,how am suppose to take care of her as an only child,when both of us can't stand each other? She accuses me of stealing every 3-4 days from a blade to her Cuisinart to pajamas that are a size 6 and I am more than that size. She is extremely jealous of me and has been my whole life. One thing that makes her so mad is when I do things for my Father who is on 02. He has 2 debilitating diseases.He uses a walker.He was never a smoker either. So in the morning he cannot make his own breakfast,so I usually will do it at end of the night so in the morning he can just heat it up. I have gotten up in the middle of the night and she has moved the food in the refrig way in back where he cannot see it. I have tried so many times to tell him that she is a Narcissistic Person. He will not go for it. I have printed out much info about this problem and have kept a daily diary of her daily rages,accusations and lying. Backstepping is her main goal with my father. She makes excuses when I leave the house that she has to vacuum my room so she can go thru all of my things. I went camping for 3 days and I had vacuumed my room the day before Ieft. I got home and she vacuum my room. I have her told not to before but she does it on purpose. I confronted her about it when I got home and she said there was a lot of hair on the carpet from my dog. My dog went with me when I did go camping. I could go on and on about sooo many rages and the anger at least 3 times a week. I cannot leave because I am the only child. I have to be here to help my Dad,whom I love dearly. I do everything here at their house and have too. I know about the suggestions about counseling,but In the mean time can some one help me to tell me what to about this evil person? Also,has anyone gone to see a counselor and what did they say? What kind of advice was given. Any help will be appreciated. Thank you and God Bless!