As most of the regular posters know by now, My mom with Parkinson’s, 93 has lived with us since 2005. In the beginning she could be left alone for a few hours, not anymore.
She can no longer bathe herself, dress herself, cut up her own food, etc. I am worn out. I catch myself wondering how much further her disease will progress. She has mobility issues and it’s becoming very hard for her to lift her legs over the tub to get to her shower chair. Getting out of tub is hard for her too. I purchased the car cane for her to have help getting in and out of car for doctor appointments and she said it was a help. Now she won’t even try to use it. She now asks me to scoot her walker up close and she struggles very hard to stand up.
Anyway, the nursing homes in Louisiana are not rated well at all. They are at the bottom of the list. I went to visit and they are horrible.
There are nice assisted living facilities. They have inquired about her health and at this point they will accept her. They say hospice will be available when she needs it. They say if I wait until she has another fall that causes severe damage that she will have to do a nursing home which I don’t want.
She has funds in CDs. Not an enormous amount but she has it divided between her children. I have two brothers. I need to convince her to free that money up for her care. She told me years ago if she gets to be too much to handle to place her somewhere. I absolutely know she would hate the nursing home l went to. I hated it. Assisted living is not cheap, will look into veteran funds too. She has social security, so we should come close and my husband and I will have to pay the rest. I guarantee my brothers won’t pay a dime, but that’s another story.
Best suggestions for bringing up topic? Will she freak out when I tell her that I toured them on Saturdays when my husband was able to be with her. I’m counting on your advice, experience and wisdom. Thanks.