4 months ago my father had a car accident and ended up in the hospital with a brain bleed and then in a nursing facility for 2 weeks for rehab. He has had severe memory problems and I have had to remind him of things a couple of times a day. He is finally doing much better. 2 weeks after he got home from the nursing facility, his wife fell and ended up in the hospital with a brain bleed then a nursing facility for 5 weeks recovering from memory loss and other cognitive issues. She came home at that time doing better, but sleeping a lot. My dad wanted her home, but she was different to him. Then after 5 weeks, she fell again, has been in the hospital and the nursing facility with extreme cognitive problems and delusions. You can barely carry on a conversation with her and she doesn't walk well. My husband and I are worn out from caring for them throughout this time although they have still lived on their own. We tried to get home health, but home health would not come in because my dad and his wife both refused it. I know at the end of 20 days, my dad will want her home again not matter what, partly because of the money and partly because he misses her. I am opposed to this because I am 70 myself and my younger sisters are mad at him and will not help. She has no family close to here. What in the world are we to do?