Yesterday a family friend called very excitedly about a new apt he bought in NYC and wanted to show off the views. I refused to watch because what's the point? I can't leave my mom and go off to NYC.
As friends & neighbors make vacation plans now that everyone's vaccinated, I'm getting upset. Even if we take mom on vacation, she'd want to sit in the hotel room or I'd have to just shadow her while my husband & kids stride ahead. They will slow down and watch her if I want a break but you know what I mean.
Mom's only 85 and mostly ok physically - she could live another 10 years. I will be 65 then and who knows how my energy levels then will be....
We cannot put mom in MC since she just came to America and will not get any govt benefits and we cannot afford the payments. She has very little money of her own if we convert it to dollars. We cannot leave her in India with her moderate dementia - there' s no one there to check in on her.
Anyway, how do you all cope mentally when you see other people enjoying life and you can't do the same things as they do? I guess I will hire sitters if I want to do a day trip. I cannot even imagine a week-long vacation now. I get so angry when I see mom sitting passively in the living room and just staring out and reading the same newspaper over & over again. I've to do things for her to have some quality of life.