My first question of this forum, which has been of great help to me. Background: my mother in law moved in with my wife and I 11 months ago. Very short notice. She has Parkinsons and fell twice in 2 days. So, overnight, we went from total freedom to practically none. Some days I handle it fine, some days not so much. My wife and I hardly do anything or go anywhere together anymore. Our marriage has definitely suffered and numerous friends have told me that neither of us are the same person anymore. But I think I'm actually handling things better than my wife. In the past few months, I find her constantly losing her temper with her mom and was even swearing at her yesterday. That's NOT my wife. I resent that this is what she's turning into, and that I'm doing 99% of the work around the house, which my wife even admits to. We have a caregiver coming for a couple hours in the morning when we are both working, and one during most of the night since my MIL can be up 3-4 times to go to the bathroom. The money to pay for care comes out of her bank account. Her SS payment doesn't cover all her expenses and her savings will run out in about a year and a half. My wife thinks we should pay her expenses with part of my pension, and I say I didn't work all those years to pay for that, and this coming from someone who has always been very unselfish. Honestly, I've said to myself that I will give this living arrangement another 2 years. Then my wife will need to make a decision. Either me or her mom. I hate to think that, but I feel I/we have given enough. I'm not happy and she's not happy. Myself, I can handle, but seeing her this way really bothers me. I've highly suggested counseling to construct a long term plan but she wasn't too keen on the idea. Help!