Although I am not a caregiver in the 'real' sense of the word I live w/my sister and over the last few years she has developed health issues but is not pro-active in dealing w/them. She is depressed, has bad eye sight, bad back, COPD and the list goes on....I feel a lot of these issues would improve if she consciously would put forth the effort. But she just doesn't do it. Some of me thinks she doesn't Want to get better. She is lazy and likes being waited on, that's her personality. The most offensive is her lack of hygiene. It's come down to once a week for showers, changing bedding and washing clothes about every 3 months. No kidding. She's fine w/me doing the cleaning and washing and kind of feels 'entitled'. I feel an able bodied person should clean up their own personal space, She could do better but she plays the 'my back hurts' card. I feel a lot of her issues are b/c she is not active. She gets defensive when I try to talk w/her. Maybe my approach is wrong? I am not hostile I am honest and she just won't accept that she has prblms. I am thinking real hard about moving out for my own sanity. There is only so much one can do if another is not willing to do for themselves. I could go on for days but you get the picture I'm sure. Any advise?