She is 72 and in generally good health. I'm seeking help for my neighbor(s). Her mother was recently widowed and brokenhearted...invited to come live with daughter,sil, twin 10yr old boys...It is not working out at all!
The only solution to save the relationship is for MIL to move to local senior apartments near by. But, MIL doesn't want to live alone. This is really tough. Any suggestions? MIL thinks she is unable to live alone due to one little medical issue after another.
The daughter (mid-40's) came to talk to me about this earlier today. And, I said "I told you so" with a smile.
Now she wants to know how to tell Mom that she just must move?
She moved from Fla. to Seattle area. I've been friends with daughter's family for over 15 years and know the family dynamics there. also, have introduced MIL/Mom to our local community church w/their grief counselling group as well as Sunday morning services. And exercise group at senior community center 3 x a week, just across the street from the apartments where she could live...
If daughter and sil tell Mom/MIL that she should move because she will be happier...I don't think that will work as she will come up with excuses or try to deny any problems.