Mom moved in with us about 8 months ago. She has mild/moderate Alzheimer's and is fairly independent. She has balance issues and must use a walker. When I see her without it, I remind her that she must use it. If my husband says the same thing to her, she has no problem with him telling her so, but when I do, she gets belligerent and says, "I was using it!" I have learned to not say a thing, just walk over and scoot the walker toward her, then walk away and not respond to her.
I'm also frustrated that when I say something, it carries no weight, but if my husband says the same exact thing, it's gospel! I know her generation has different beliefs than I do about "men being God-like", but I'm getting very resentful and upset when she does this.
She also seems able to do things for herself when my husband offers, for example to fix her a sandwich, but when I'm in the kitchen, she's very content to allow me to fix it for her.
I know I'm being petty and find it really annoying that I'm feeling this way. I guess I need a vacation, but know that's not in the cards right now! My husband and son are wonderful about staying with Mom so I can get out a night a week, so I shouldn't complain, but I really need to vent. Thanks for listening and I truly appreciate any advise you can give to me!