Hello, fellow caregivers! 6 years in, just found this site - feel like someone threw me a life preserver! I'm ashamed to say it but I am pretty much doing just what needs to be done. I don't have any respite other than when I go to my full-time day job. Mom had a stroke in 2008, has diabetes, vascular dementia, arthritis, high blood pressure, Achalasia...just took her in and she now has thyroid issues. Up until a month ago she was up several times every night, until doc started her on Seroquel, now she sleeps a bit better (and so do I). She can no longer read or do crosswords or even see tv well. My mom raised 7 kids by herself and helped with several grandkids. No one visits or calls, except maybe on holidays. Maybe. Sometimes. Ok, rarely. I'm having trouble staying motivated and try to remember how hard it must be for her to lay there all day. She grew up on a farm in a huge family, and it was the happiest time of her life. I read her James Herriott's books and she enjoys those. I feel like I've lost myself. I do like to garden, read, and enjoy my pup/grandpups. Mom's at a point now where if I walk out of the room she's likely to call me. Was gardening one day - she didn't want to go outside and sit with me - when she threw a coffee mug through one of the windows - luckily my grandpup was there and he came running to get me. She told me she called 911 because no one would answer when she called (I was right outside). She can't wander or anything like that, but wants someone in room with her or she gets scared. I know I'm burned out, but how do I regain a balance? Any suggestions from those that have been there/done that? Blessings and peace to you all!