My Mom is constantly "wondering" about things for which I have no answers. How should I respond?

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I am living with my 95 year old mother. I get weary with my mom's constant questions. I don't want to be rude, but I honestly don't know what to say.

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rabbit, think about it, imagine if your world was just sitting around watching TV, every day becomes Groundhog Day. Thus, the reason your Mom is wondering about this or that.... sounds like she is trying to get a conversation going.

Any senior centers nearby that your Mom could go to, if willing? That would fill all that wasted time in from the TV with new things to think about.... plus she could fine new friends to chat with, thus new and different conversations. Something worth thinking about.

My parents still live under their own roof and they are in their 90's, and since I am there only source of conversation when I call, they are also wondering about the neighbors.... oh, the Jones had a painter at their house, wondering if they are moving?.... oh, we didn't get any mail today, wonder if someone took it?
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rabbit, I know what you mean. My mother often "wonders what ... is doing" or thinking. I don't have any answers, so just say I don't know. Some of her wondering requires me to be clairvoyant, which I'm not. I don't think she really expects me to know. She is just talking. But there's no way to respond except to say I don't know.

Or maybe we could have a little fun with it and say something like, "I heard they robbed a bank and got arrested." :-D
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My mom doesn't have dementia, but she does have short term memory loss and her hearing isn't good. She sits in her chair all day and all she has to do is watch TV, think about her past and wonder about everything that is going on. She wonders what the neighbors are doing; what family members are doing, etc. She asks questions for which I have no answers. I don't think there is a fix for this problem, I just get frustrated at times and need to vent. Thanks for letting me do that.
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Your profile doesn't say if your mom has dementia and like the above comment suggested, we might need a little more information about your mom. But assuming she has dementia one thing you can try is redirecting her attention, get her to focus on something else in that moment she's asking a question. Redirecting can be exhausting but it's effective.
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Rabbit, we need more information. What are the health issues with your Mom? What type of things is she wondering about? Or is she repeating the questions like she is asking each time for the first time?
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