Both parents are in a very nice memory care facility. My stepdad moved in with mom recently. Today he was very distraught and with great difficulty he was able to describe a nighttime aide who he claims is molesting my mother under the guise of getting her ready for bed. He is extremely intimidated and afraid of this man. He described him and I checked with staff and they knew who it was. An aide from an outside agency due to staff shortage of facility employees. The regular daytime staff are wonderful. He is happy and comfortable with everything and everyone except this one individual. Both parents do have dementia diagnosed. But I firmly believed that he was speaking of a disturbing reality, not mixing delusion with fact. An investigation is underway but I’m sick to think that perhaps it’s all a misunderstanding. But in my heart I believe something is not right even if it is only a matter of attitude or non professional behavior. Any experience with something like this? So very upsetting. I think it happens more than any of us really know My moms short term memory keeps her from remembering anything. She claims she gets herself ready for bed. No. She is wheelchair bound and gets assistance with everything from dressing to toileting to showering. She has absolutely no memory of anything which is sad when you think of how many are in that same stage and can’t possibly remember what goes on to report? Perhaps the accused counts on that? And that stepdad has the same? Since it is “memory” care?