Mom entered a good nursing home. She was wandering and trying to escape so luckily they got her into the secure Alzheimer's wing, with only 16 beds. One woman was actually bumped out since my mom was trying to get on the elevator. My sister and I were visiting trying to get her settled in. They asked us not to come visit for one week, she was getting combative, etc wanting to leave. I didn't go, then they asked us to just call the next week, she was being very restless and trying to escape. After two weeks, I went in, she was happy to see me and my sister. It's been one month. I take her out to the garden, and we visit in her private room. Here is my question: My sister visits about 4 times a week and wants to take her out into the community every time. She took her to garage sales, took a 45 minute phone call from her son, pulled over to the curb. She takes her to Trader Joe's, Kohl's, coffee shops, etc. She never stays in the facility, which is quite nice! Today she is going to visit and take her out again. We are arguing, I believe it's too much. Mom is 81, she still walks but off balance. She can use the toilet, but it takes 20 mins. She told me she is medical power of attorney and can do whatever she wants! She told me to get on medication and that I need medical help. We are not getting along. I am not the expert on this subject, but before the nursing home, she did the same thing. I lived with mom for 16 years and was her main caregiver, but she would drag mom all over town while she shopped. I want to take mom out maybe once every week or two weeks, maybe to get an ice cream cone or quick meal at a coffee shop. This is also during her first month.She said she is going to ask a nurse today for their advice, just randomly on the spot. They may tell her what she wants to hear, or be afraid of her. I appreciate any comments!