He is in a memory care facility. I used to visit every day for about 18 months. I was able to handle it emotionally because it was a nice facility and I was quite cheerful. I am only 67 and am in good health. For the first year and a half I enjoyed the visits and so did he. We laughed and chatted with the other residents and enjoyed the activities. There has been a lot of decline though. Also I have moved him to another facility where the people are more advanced in their dementia. He still recognizes me and tells me he loves me. The problem is that I no longer look forward to seeing him on a daily basis and I have cut back to four or five times a week. It isn't helping. I cry almost every day when I think that I am still bound to him emotionally yet he isn't really the man I lived with for thirty years. My friends and family say I should separate from him emotionally because he is dragging me down with him. This is the hardest part of the long trek for me. He has had increasing dementia for at least five, maybe six years. I am really worn out. I haven't been able to travel or have a male companion to do the things we always enjoyed together. We used to be so active. It makes me sad and lonely that all the interests we shared as a couple are no longer possible. He is childlike and very sweet. He was a wonderful husband and I still love him, but seeing him so diminished and being emotionally alone have really gotten to me. I guess I just am struggling to find a way to enjoy him now. And trying to be a good wife--whatever that means at this point. Any suggestions. I am so tired of crying and trying to figure out how to go forward. I am depressed.