Well, I am back and thanks again to all who helped me with advice on placing hubby in nursing home and getting Medicaid. Almost done with the Medicaid process. It was finally filed by attorneys the other day. The nursing home he is in is also pretty ok. My question is how often should I be going to nursing home? Right now I go every single day and have only missed a few days due to my own mental stress or family matters. I usually stay 2-6 hours, varies every day. I take him outside for wheelchair rides, sit in sun, we sit in family room and watch TV, the usual things. He does not care to participate in any activities or outings. He has been in this home for almost 2 months now. He had another UTI a few weeks ago and started hallucinating so was in hospital for a few days too. Since he got back from hospital ten days ago, his personality is totally different. He has been on same story that the nursing home and staff are Communist and deal in drugs and will kill him since then. He fights with staff, spits at them, will not eat hardly ever, He refuses his meds all day and the poor staff has to try to find someone who works there he will take meds from. Hard job for them. His new "thing" is he now decided I was one of the spies or drug runners too and is constantly screaming at me, does not care who is listening. I do not challenge him, I let him say whatever but I feel pretty humiliated. Telling people I have boyfriend and some pretty nasty stories. I realize nobody believes him but it seems he is disturbing the whole nursing home. He has to be the loudest and nastiest one there now. Last night he told me to get the F word out of there and I did. Today I did not go but soon the calls will start with him looking for me. Hopefully they will take his phone away again. So, out of a simple question, I told you all a huge story, sorry. Should I still keep visiting daily? How does everyone else do this? He has Lewy Body and Vascular dementia and is 73. He cannot walk at all. He remembers everyone but does not remember anything from day before but remembers things from way back when only.