My Significant Other is 75 years old and diagnosed with dementia, bipolar/manic depressive. After spending 2 months in an Alzheimer/dementia SNF, she improved physically and mentally enough that we felt she was okay to bring home. I have been caring for her since July. She woke up 10 days ago with a fairly large lump on her neck. At the emergency room, they said it looked like an infected lymph node and admitted her to the hospital. The next day, she identified me as her mother and hasn't known who I am since. She became totally hostile and uncooperative with hospital personnel. They finally got her quieted down with Seroquel. Now, she speaks to me as her mother and talks about me, her care giver and life partner, extremely negatively. Accuses me of all kinds of illegal things, theft and lies. All I have ever done is take care of her and strive to keep her from harming herself. Her accusations hurt terribly. She becomes angry when I try to tell her I haven't stolen from her, can't understand that I am not her mother. I don't know how to talk to her. I am not her mother, who died 11 years ago. She hates me because I sign papers for her. That I make decisions about her care. She is the one who made out the trust appointing me her POA should anything happen to her. Now she wants to revoke it, but, of course, that is impossible. I wish I had never agreed to it. I wish I could walk away, but have invested 16 years of my life in this relationship and do not wish to abandon everything I have worked for. Plus the fact that I feel responsible for her well being. I am trying with all that's in me to keep her home as long as possible, but at 71 I don't know how long I can handle this physically or mentally. I am tired. Do I tell her she is not able to take care of things or continue to try to let her do things on her own? She wants my name off her bank account, but she can't even balance her checkbook any more. She won't allow any strangers to come in to help. Doesn't trust anyone. Totally paranoid. If anyone has some advice for me, I would appreciated any suggestions.