I have mixed feelings. You must take into consideration that here in New Orleans our cemeteries are unique and very special to us. So I grew up visiting the cemetery on All Saints Day to honor family members who died.
I never thought about cremation as a child because at one time it was against our faith. Now it is accepted but it is recommended that our cremains are placed in a grave. Most families here have family plots. I'm not even close to my family anymore so I don't even know where I wish to be. I do think that I want to be cremated. I want to have this settled. I don't want my children to have to think about these things for myself or my husband.
I don't visit the cemetery that often these days. I will go on All Saints Day. It's very customary here to do so. There are flowers on practically every grave. There are masses said. It's nice to remember those that I loved so much, my father, my grandparents and other relatives and friends.
Planning for these things feels sort of odd. I want to to get it over with. I put it off because it's kind of creepy to think about. I feel like a lot of people are choosing cremation more these days. Funerals are becoming ridiculously expensive. Such a waste of money, as far as I'm concerned. Simple funerals are nicer to me. To each his own, though.
How important is it to have a place for relatives to visit you after you die? I don't feel strongly about this. My oldest daughter visits my father's grave. She was very close to him. My youngest one is further away at school and doesn't get to go. I don't like the idea of having anyone's ashes in an urn to keep on a mantle or wherever.. What happens to ashes eventually as people die off? I don't want someone to keep my ashes. For some, they like having the ashes close. I don't especially like ashes placed in lockets or anything like that either. Just seems odd to me. I can appreciate that others like it, just isn't for me.