We recently moved my Grandmother in with us. I have 2 children, ages 13 and 15. They have already given up quite a bit of freedom, on days that I work they have Grandma duty when they get home from school. We have a caregiver that comes until noon, so she takes care of her shower, breakfast and lunch, so the kids are mostly keeping her company, warming up her coffee, giving her an arm to lean on to get from here to there and reassuring her when she asks every 3- 5 minutes that her cat has been fed. I don't make them help her with her bathroom issues (she wears a depend and I clean up any mess when I get home), I just need them to be here with her. If they want to have friends over they can, they just have to promise to check on grandma and not ignore her. They both get frustrated though, it does get old answering the same questions over and over and over again. They usually at some point ditch her for a while and decompress in their rooms. But they do check on her. It's just that when she is alone for any length of time she gets all depressed and moody and starts in with the "Nobody wants me here, I should just go to a home". Is it appropriate that I leave her with them? Is this asking too much? I don't think it's fair for them to have to sit and watch TV with her all afternoon, so I don't make them. I also don't want them to resent her, or me! Not sure what to do, I am new to all of this.