Dad is 84 with moderate dementia (SLUMS score 13 about a year ago). He lives in his home, I just started home care 3 hours per day each weekday. My brother doesn’t think he needs it, but I like having someone there with him. You can make himself a sandwich or a bowl of cereal and will take his meds if someone reminds him 10 times. I take him to and schedule all his medical appointments, monitor his health, set up weekly med box, do his shopping, help with house care etc. Myself and the one brother take turns staying nights with him just in case he may need something in the night, falls, whatever. UNTIL tonight. He had a huge fight with my brother. He is refusing to let my brother take his handgun and secure it. My brother is rightly concerned that he will try and shoot one of us in the night due to be confused about who’s in the house. He kicked my brother out of the house and told him to not come back if he didn’t feel safe. I called to talk to him about it and he downright refuses to relinquish the gun and says I can basically screw off, he doesn’t need me or anyone else to help him and hangs up the phone. I have just spent the last four nights with him and need to be present for my husband and my home. I feel absolutely terrible but I making the decision to let him stay home alone and I’ll call him first thing tomorrow. He said that’s what he prefers, but it makes me nervous. I’m I being terrible?