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My husband has advanced Alzheimer's. He resists assistance with his personal care. He especially doesn't like his pants being lowered for toileting or taking off his shoes. He will punch and kick at his caregivers at times. Three days ago he had to be moved forty miles to a new facility with a men's behavior unit. Yesterday he did punch a caregiver when she was redirecting him in the hallway. They are making med adjustments hoping to improve his anxiety. Most of the time he is pleasant to be around. This place is very expensive and less appealing than where he was initially for three weeks. Should I hold out hope for his behavior to improve enough so he can be moved back to the nursing home much closer to home? When he was here I visited him every day. Now with the distance and possibly bad winter roads our time together will be must less. I'm praying for good quick results for him as we continue into our 54th year of marriage.

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If he is kicking and punched a caregiver, that is serious. He might very well get kicked out of this facility too, you might want to prepare for that. The best thing would be for his doctor to prescribe meds to calm him down and ease anxiety. It might make him very sleepy and slow to respond tho.ugh
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Juanita6 Oct 13, 2025
They are keeping track of all my husband's refusals for care and any times when he tries to become physically aggressive. That record would go with him to a different facility. I've learned that I can request a referral to another place whenever I want. But if there are still behavior issues the places I prefer close to home are not going to take him. We'll have to bide our time and pray for him to calm and adjust to his situation. Some med changes have been made and it seems as though there's been some improvements.
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Juanita6: Pose your question to his physician.
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Juanita6 Oct 13, 2025
Thanks. Of course no one really has an answer, because alzheimers is unpredictable. Wait and see is the only answer I have been given.
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His going back to any regular nursing home depends on the present neuropsych unit finding meds that render him nonviolent. At the doses deemed effective, being less ambulatory or responsive is expected. Being a vegetable is not. I would have a face to face with the don where you tell her exactly that.
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Juanita6 Oct 2, 2025
Thanks for the advice. I'm hoping that he can still be aware and able enough to appreciate our time together.
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This really is a question for the Doctor and RNs caring for him.
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Juanita6 Oct 2, 2025
I believe you're right on that. And I imagine that it will take some time for him and them to make the necessary adjustments in order to arrive at an answer. Sounds like all of us involved need to practice some patience. Thanks for your reply.
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