Is 6 1/2 hours sufficient? Moms Gerontologist told us to give her Melatonin 5mg for sleep. It works to get her to sleep but it is marginal, taking about 3 hours to finally get her to sleep. I give it at about 7pm, hidden in her evening snack because she refuses to take ANYTHING for sleep. It is 7:18 am and she is standing in my bedroom door as I am typing wanting the dog to wake up and come out of my room and yelling at me that "If I don't like it, I can pack my stuff and move out!" I have been awake since 4:30 am when she awoke me with the lights on and her at my bedside, covering the dog because it was "cold." The dog was sound asleep!!! This happens very often. (dog use to sleep in her room but left because Mom was driving it crazy) I have panic and anxiety and am finding it more and more difficult to handle this. I need sleep!!!
I have been caring for Mom for the past 8 years and prior to that my father, brother in law and aunt for a total of 17 years. Mom is the only one with dementia (moderate-severe). And the most difficult, worse than all three of the others combined!
I am at my wits end not being able to find the help I need. I am shaking like a leaf because I am so upset right now. Our Gerontologist is of no real help and I am having difficulty finding another one. To top it off Mom refuses to go to the doctor so my sister has to take off work and we have to literally force her to go and I do mean one of us on each side of her.
I am also my mother's Power of Attorney for Finances and Medical and there are bills to pay, checkbooks to balance and the only time I can do this is at night when she has gone to bed. All she has to do is see anything with the banks name on it and she goes into a rampage wanting to know where her checkbook is and arguing about it. Last night I took ZzzQuil to fall asleep at 12 midnight after balancing the checkbook. I am then awakened at 4:30 by her with the dog and she gets loud, screaming and my daughter and sister are trying to sleep so they can go to work and school.
I don't know how long Mom had been awake but if she went to sleep at 10pm and was awake by 4:30 am she is getting 6 1/2 hours sleep. Is that all the sleep she needs or should be getting? I personally wish she was sleeping til 7:30 or 8:00 just so I could get some sleep. I don't really want to see her doped up, but the doctor gave me Trazodone 50MG for her that I need to try. The problem is once again, it is a pill that is suppose to be given at bedtime and she will not take anything that is suppose to allow her to sleep. The only way I can give it to her is to hide it in her food.
Can somebody HELP ME PLEASE! I CANNOT KEEP GOING ON LIKE THIS!
I need ideas, I need advice to continue to care for her at home.